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an archived personal and craft blog from Elise Blaha Cripe.

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l had the pleasure of spending four days on the Oregon Coast this past week, wearing my collection of humongous scarves and teaching at the Your Story Retreat.

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I said this to the women attending at the very beginning and I say it again here: my job, while awesome, can be very isolating. It's just me and my computer and sometimes it feels like with all the online connection available, it's difficult to connect in real life. I do not seek out opportunities to make friends often or give myself time to really dig deeper below the surface.

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And in some ways, that (digging deeper) is what this retreat was about. There were 21 of us, for the most part packed into one big house. Everyone, I think, comes in with a different objective and different expectations for what they want to get out of it…escape, inspiration, relaxation, engagement, connection. Everyone leaves, I think, with a little bit of each plus a greater understanding that expectations are sort of lame and so much more happens when you're open to letting them go.

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My teaching day was Friday and I taught rubber stamp carving in the morning and then we used our stamps to create patterned paper. In the afternoon, we bound small books with the paper we'd stamped.

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This is my sweet spot in many ways. Stamping and book binding are both projects that I have experimented with over the past few years. They are skills that you wouldn't necessarily try on your own because purchasing the supplies before you know exactly what to do with them is overwhelming. I love that there is a clear take away and we get to "finish" a project. It wouldn't be an Elise class if we didn't just execute (ideally without second-guessing).

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The other thing that I love is watching peoples' personalities come out through what they decide to carve. Stamp carving is a fun project that allows for a lot of variety and personal style. And then book-binding is sort of the opposite because it's pretty exact and "step-by-step."

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I really didn't know what to expect from this trip. The teaching portion was much more comfortable for me than I thought it would be – I think mostly because I loved the projects and more importantly, had spent Thursday getting to know the students (and therefore felt like I could turn the awkward notch down about 74%). I also loved the learning, we took self-portraits, discussed finding mental balance and painted with watercolors (taught by Kelly Barton).

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And the other portion, the bonding portion, was so enjoyable. As mentioned, it's so easy for me to keep the distance that comes with sitting behind a screen. Over the years I have gotten very good at protecting myself through text, but in real life, I get to do fun things like use sarcasm and demonstrate listening skills. I enjoy watching people warm up and feel like I really learned 100 new things.

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Including how to crochet! Hannah, who totally became a true friend of mine, taught me one evening after I became obsessed with the blanket she was making and purchased yarn and a crochet hook in town. I have tried to learn many times before but this time I was able to commit. I ended up crocheting what can only be described as NOT a cowl. But it was hilarious and therapeutic.

The whole four days were truly.

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What a pleasure it was to teach and attend. I came home Sunday refreshed and reminded that I need to step out of my bubble more offline and really relax and show more of ME online. I've gotten a little caught up here lately trying to clarify my thoughts but I am learning that the people who are going to get it, the people who are wanting the connection, the people who I want to connect with and the people who are truly listening rarely need clarification. 

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Lessons everywhere folks. Even (especially?) on the Oregon Coast. Thank you, Liz, for hosting such a great event and thank you to each the rad ladies who showed up and shared with me.

I'd totally be remiss if I didn't also thank Paul and my sister-in-law Kristen for taking care of Ellerie so I was able to enjoy this time away. Thank you. And one more sidenote, photos in this post were edited with the new A Beautiful Mess actions for PSE.

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48 responses to “home from the your story retreat.”

  1. Jess Avatar

    Though I’ve never met you outside your blog, I’d like to think that we would be real life friends! :)I. Thanks for writing with such honesty, I read your words daily and they inspire me not only personally but in my pursuit of my professional dreams as well! I tooto struggle with hiding behind my coputer and genuinly love listening to others open up, but struggle to share the real me, the deep stuff, with those around me!
    Thanks again for sharing! I look forward to “getting to know YOU” more and plan to find ways to reach out and get to know those around me more!
    cheers, Jess
    P.s. that retreat looks heavenly!

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  2. fariha Avatar
    fariha

    Beautiful post Elise!
    Just a quick question about that Hafiz print- is that available for purchase somewhere or just part of one of the retreat activities?
    Would LOVE to get my hands on exactly that (maybe a make29 if it doesnt exist out there…)

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  3. Ruth Avatar

    Thanks for posting the quote from Hafiz ~ it’s just I need right now! So glad you had a good time.

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  4. Leah Avatar

    Your pictures and photos are so beautiful, as it sounds like the experience was. This day and age is so digital, it is important for creative women to get together in real life and just be their own silly, sarcastic, awkward, real selves. Thank you, a million times over, for sharing yourself online, you’ve inspired me so much and do daily. Thank you!!

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  5. Kirsten Avatar

    The NOT cowl. Ha. I’m thinking Halloween. So lovely to chat and connect a bit. Have a great week!

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  6. Brianna Avatar
    Brianna

    Isn’t it amazing how getting out of the normal can be so freeing? We get in ruts, especially those of us who freelance/work for ourselves, doing the same thing over and over again. I know for me going away from my routine always refreshes me, but it’s hard to break from that routine of school and work.

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  7. emily Avatar

    The feeling of truly connecting with your people hits deep, deep in the soul, doesn’t it?
    These photos make me want to go home from work and MAKE SOMETHING right now. Water color, probably. Also, that Hafiz quote? Absolutely positively going in my baby’s room.

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  8. Michelle Avatar

    Beautiful photos! Just a note – I personally enjoy your “clarifying” your thoughts. I like to read and I like what you write. My favorite posts of yours are ones with lots of words.
    I do “miss” the original Elise though. The Elise who posted how the Starbucks people misspelled her name on her cup, who told about her misadventures with the DMV, whose whole post was in her long titles and then just a photo, the Elise who ended up partying with some dude at a bar Friday, who was then giving communion in Sunday service. I miss the funny Elise. You are so serious these days on the blog, and you stopped trying to make people laugh at your mishaps. I miss that person. She is probably still there, but Blog Elise is now serious all the time.

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  9. Bambou Orchidee Avatar

    Love this post Elise ! And can not wait to see your crocheting projects !

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  10. elise blaha cripe Avatar

    it was just hanging on the wall at the retreat! I imagine Liz typed it up and printed it out.. don’t think it’s for sale. 🙂

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  11. elise blaha cripe Avatar

    hannah called it a “face tube” which is just perfection. xo

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  12. elise blaha cripe Avatar

    Blog Elise gets really tired sometimes. 🙂
    I can’t say I am “working to bring back the funny” because that is absurd. You can’t WORK on that (nor do I want to). But I have totally built a guard up around here due to some really frustrating comments and interactions. I’m “working” to bring that guard back down which most likely will bring back the funny.
    But I also use IG and twitter for the “funny” more often now. It’s quick and instant, and that is what humor is.
    As for the clarifying, I don’t mean shorter posts, I mean less of the worrying about how things will be perceived. This space is how I process so there will always be thoughtful and ideally thought-provoking writing. 🙂

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  13. young Avatar
    young

    Glad it was such a great time! I’d love to go to one of these retreats one day!

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  14. Ashley Armstrong Krueger Avatar

    Although your two day workshop at Teahouse in Berkeley wasn’t so much a retreat, I totally felt the same way about stepping out of my comfort zone and getting together with actual people.

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  15. Christen Avatar
    Christen

    It sounds like a wonderful 4 days!

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  16. elise blaha cripe Avatar

    yes! that was so fun. 🙂

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  17. belinda Avatar
    belinda

    Always enjoy your post. I hope you hold true to “YOU”. Comments are great…we all have our opinion…but your blog is yours. If you feel lengthy,go for it,if you feel short and sweet to the point…serious…funny…whatever IT is yours. After my daily Elise fix I feel motivated to DO. Thank you for sharing all your gifts from organization to projects that are doable, exposing us to stuff that can make our lives easier. Please keep it up and only listen to Paul and your parents:)

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  18. Lori W. Avatar

    It breaks my heart that in “your space” you’ve had to field frustrating, lame or rude comments. You are SO good at what you do. You appear open and always, it seems, authentically you, though perhaps a bit more guarded since becoming a Mom. I suspect having a little one will always make a person more guarded, probably rightly so.
    I definitely became more careful, closed-off, and protective (of my children and myself) once I became a mom. My fear of not being a “good enough” mom or the “you’re doing it wrong” mom in other people’s eyes, seems to have trumped my desire to be honest and open. I will work on that. Thank you for the reminder that vulnerability takes work and it ain’t easy, but it’s worth it.

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  19. JC Avatar

    It looks magical, totally inspiring and your photos are awesome. I think I may have to look into some blogging retreats nearby.

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  20. elise blaha cripe Avatar

    this is really nice to hear. thank you. 🙂

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  21. Mary Sara P. Avatar

    Hi there..what a wonderful recap and pictures and so loved your “NOT” cowl. So much fun and laughter. It was nice to meet you and connect a bit. xo

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  22. Jennifer Avatar

    What a beautiful experience! I feel as though I’m in need of a little rejuvenation time myself. Your blog has been a great source of advice for balancing life, projects, work, etc. … and I’m so glad to have become a regular reader. Thanks so much for letting us have a peek into your life, Elise! 🙂

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  23. Shayna Avatar
    Shayna

    Lovely post (as always)!!
    I may have missed this information in a previous post, but was just wondering if you have a polaroid camera. I am in the market for one and always appreciate your product advice and experience!
    Many thanks

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  24. Lauren Espy Avatar
    Lauren Espy

    Im so glad you had a wonderful time in Oregon! It looks like you ladies had fun and I so wish I could have gone.
    Also, thank you for emailing me back last week. It was such a treat to hear back from you.

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  25. Sarah p Avatar
    Sarah p

    I like the blog you and the real you ❤! And that face tube still makes me laugh out loud!

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  26. elise blaha cripe Avatar

    I do have one! but no film for it. on this trip I borrowed an instax for that photo shared above.

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  27. Libbi M. (Ashland, Oregon) Avatar
    Libbi M. (Ashland, Oregon)

    Elise… you are an amazing person (mother & wife). don’t ever forget that! I’ve learned over the years to “let go” of what other people think of me & to “embrace” the true me. I really wish that negative people would stay back away from your blog space but i’m sure you have accepted that’s an unrealistic expectation.
    Thank you for sharing about your trip. So happy you had a good time.

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  28. liz Avatar

    I adore you. Thank you for showing up as you and sharing yourself + your wisdom + your gorgeous sense of humor with all of us. I can’t wait to see what’s next…

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  29. Michelle Avatar

    I was going to ask you about that at some point. I just (this week) read an essay from a male blogger about the kind of well…CRAP.. that female bloggers get, that he as a man never gets. How that is indicative of the sexism in our society. For example, he said, he can go away for a business trip for 2 weeks and NO ONE will call him a “bad dad” or make slams on him like that, but female bloggers get judged and vocally no matter what they write about. He also pointed out that no one ever, ever uses what he looks like or weighs to discount what his opinions are.
    I’m sorry you have had to deal with that, and I know how it hurts.

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  30. Kelsey Avatar

    I’m definitely also someone who loves to work and be productive. Which means that in my free time I’d rather work than make plans to see a friend or do something relaxing. But it’s SO rejuvenating to be with friends and to not be focused on work. It’s a hard balance, I’m sure especially for you since you are a one gal shop and completely responsible for everything. I know that any new friends you make would be so thrilled to be in your company! And it bums me out that anyone would have negative words for you. You are such an inspiration! I’m positive those people are taking out negative feelings on you that actually have nothing to do with you. For every one negative person I’m sure there are hundreds who have been inspired or encouraged by you!

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  31. fafuna Avatar
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    “Expectations are sort of lame and so much more happens when you’re open to letting them go.” Elise, thank you so much for this thought! I wrote it down and I hope to keep it in mind… Thank you. 🙂

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  32. Lucy Avatar
    Lucy

    The quote about clarification in bold, soo powerful Elise, and I’m not a blogger but as a newcomer to a country town I find myself modifying and clarifying myself all the time when you’re so right, sometimes you just need to be yourself and those who want to get it or you will. This post really resonated with me and you should frame the part above that you wrote in bold and put it in a frame in your office : )

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  33. Elise Avatar

    Thank you for sharing this! I felt so isolated when I became a mom and I found a moms group, fit4mom, which teaches Stroller Strides classes (and stroller barre, which I bet you’d love) and really found my “village”. I do teach for them now but I swear this is not a plug, just the suggestion that it’s a great way to find other moms…the women I have met truly save my life every time I have a “bad mom day”. You should see if there’s one in your area, I think they’re all over Cali.

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  34. April Avatar
    April

    To say you miss the fun Elise is an insult. I’m sure she is still fun, but she as well as her writing has matured. I think she’s still fun. Personally, I’d feel embarrassed to be reading such silliness from a 29 yeAr old wife and mother. She writes with passion and purpose.

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  35. Carly Maria Avatar

    I love, love this. And I love your blog! I make youtube videos, and can definitely understand how comments can hold you back… but I admire your push to ignore them and do you!

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  36. Kimberly Kalil Avatar

    Thanks for showing up … being so real, so honest and so funny. You’re a lovely person and it was a treat to learn from you and laugh until I was crying. I’m inspired by your drive … and even your “not cowl.”

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  37. Jess Lonett Avatar

    this is my favorite “expectations are sort of lame and so much more happens when you’re open to letting them go.”

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  38. Welcome Home Taylor Avatar

    Sounds like a total blast!
    xoxo
    Taylor

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  39. kelly barton Avatar

    it was so much fun having you at this one! of course i always get home and wish i had more time to sit and chat with everyone. hoping your are settling back in. i am waiting to fall asleep standing up phase of today!!!
    can’t wait to see what lays ahead! xoxo

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  40. Sarah Avatar
    Sarah

    I was going to ask how the retreat went! I had signed up for it – when you first mentioned it on the blog, way back in fall. I was in a time of incredible stress and I knew Your Story would be exactly the therapy I needed. And, I was excited to meet you because I’ve followed you for years and I love your approach to life/work/craft. And Liz and Kelly sounded amazing too.
    I had to withdraw from the retreat because my husband lost his job before Christmas and – which was actually an amazing gift in disguise, since it has given us time to re-evaluate our life and choose a different path. We are working on lauching a handmade shop, and developing a few new income streams so we don’t have to go back to living the way we were. But it did mean I had to withdraw from the retreat due to funds/time/etc. and I was sad about that but very happy about how things have changed for us.
    Hopefully I’ll be able to catch it next year, and hopefully be able to connect with you in person sometime this lifetime. 🙂
    How did your wee family get on while you were away?
    This turned out to be a very rambly comment. 🙂

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  41. Dona Bumgarner Avatar

    I’m downloading those actions momentarily because YUMMY! I’m so glad I got a chance to get to know you this weekend. My guy totally appropriated the little book I made in your class as soon as I unpacked, sparkly pink paint and all. 🙂

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  42. donya Avatar

    I miss those old posts too, Elise. But I totally understand. I think when I first started reading your blog I was probably one of 100 readers and obviously when your readership grows as much as yours has, things change. I don’t see it as a bad change, just a change. You’re doing great and are constantly inspiring me. 🙂

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  43. Mary Sane Avatar

    But seriously, why thank your husband for taking care of his own daughter? kinda goes without saying that both parents should be responsible for the kid(s).

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  44. elise blaha cripe Avatar

    Paul thanks me everyday for taking care of our daughter. It’s awesome and hard and we’re both grateful for each other.

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  45. elise blaha cripe Avatar

    I’m so sad to hear you missed it but that is wonderful to hear you’re family is making smart changes for you guys!
    they did great without me, but Ellerie is happy I am home. 🙂

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  46. jasmine Avatar

    I really love this post! I totally understand the connection thing. I’ve been slowly losing real life connection since I started blogging five+ years ago… and I don’t even blog anymore! I shut it down about eight months ago! Not that I’m a complete hermit or anything; I think I’ve just gotten lazy with making new friends. Plus, it’s harder the older you get! I think being a newer mom has made me really really aware of my need for connection and interaction… hanging out with my toddler all day makes me miss grown up conversations! Your weekend away sounds like it was really refreshing and special . I’m so happy for you that you were able to recharge in that way! I’d love to go on a retreat like this one day. And as for the clarification thing, ohhhhh yes do I understand that one. I could only handle so much criticism on my blog/about my blog/in my inbox before it started to affect how I blogged. And eventually it just ruined the whole thing altogether for me. I think it’s awesome that you’re being so honest and straightforward about these types of issues that come up when you’re a blogger. I love your blog, and I’m happy to read whatever you have to share however you choose to share it. 🙂

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  47. james Avatar

    nice..!!!!!!!

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  48. Ringgold Vandyke Avatar

    By reading your retreat story, right now I want to go to a retreat and enjoy making stamp carvings, learning how to make a crochet with some group of individuals with same passion. Thanks Elise dear for sharing your story. You are truly a sincere person.

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