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Whenitdoesnotpanout

When my mom was in town last weekend, one of the things she helped me do was massively purge my collection of fabric scraps. (I have a "scrap quilt" on my "someday list" and so we were cutting down pieces into manageable sizes.)

Some of the fabric in the collection is easily recognizable as something from one of the 800 quilts in this house or the cushions in our old townhouse. Other pieces, not so much. More than twice my mom held up a pattern (or sometimes various patterns haphazardly sewn together) and asked, "what project was this for?"

More than twice I shrugged and answered "oh, that didn't pan out."

Part of my job is executing on ideas and trying different things so I can share projects on this blog. Sometimes this results in something awesome. Other times it results in a mess. The key is being able seperate the awesome from the awful and ideally recognizing the messes early(ish) in the process. I hate taking something all the way from start to finish (with step-by-step photos even!) and then realizing I don't like the project. It's often a blurry line and it can be so frustrating to stop something in the middle and let it go.

But at the same time, it's so incredibly freeing. Taking something that I'm not loving or enjoying off my layer three (more on this here) to-do list is like letting go of a heavy weight. I always feel good when I give up projects that are not coming together like I hoped. True, it's hard to know that I have already spent time (and money!) but I'd rather have wasted time and money than wasted time and money AND have something in my house (or on the blog) that I don't love.

In December, I gave up on my quilted tree skirt idea. I bought (expensive!) fabric, cut it before I had a perfect plan and hated how it was coming together. So I tried to re-cut the pieces and started sewing the scraps together. Then I hated the second plan even more. The pile of fabric mocked me from my sewing table and to-do list every day until I finally tossed it in the scrap box (and then bought a tree skirt on clearance at Target on December 26).

Another recent example was my black and white striped knitting project that I thought was going to become a rug. After way (way) too many stitches I realized it was a bit narrow. Bullheadedly, I kept going, figuring there would be a way to make it work once it was done. And then after many (many) more stitches I realized it was oddly misshapen (bowing in in the center – which I think is a result of making my stitching too tight OR the fact that I didn't keep my strips of fabric consistent).

I had to be honest with myself and awknowledge that this wasn't something I'd actually use. I'm all about imperfection but this not good. So off the knitting needles it went and I found the next project (weaving!) to keep my hands busy while we're watching TV in the evenings. It wasn't a total loss either since now I know that fabric knitting looks rad and I have it on the back of my mind for future (perhaps smaller scale?) projects.

The lesson (if you're the sort of person that likes a lesson with your morning blog posts) is that the more crafts that I try and the more projects I experiment with, the more ideas I have. I've found that it's totally worth the exploration and possible failures to get to the good stuff.

And it's also totally worth it to stop or let go when something isn't working.

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33 responses to ““oh, that didn’t pan out.””

  1. Little Miss Joey Avatar

    Thank you for this post, I really enjoyed it!
    It’s so important to realise that not finishing something is not necessarily failure, it can be a conscious decision when that something is not working for you. So very freeing 😀

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  2. Ffion Avatar

    I agree so much! There’s is really no such thing as a completely failed project, at worst, you learnt what didn’t work and at best you came away with lots of new experience and ideas to experiment with 🙂
    You have to make the bad projects so you can make the good ones.

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  3. Stephanie Howell Avatar

    I love this. It’s super encouraging to me…as sometimes I can feel a bit inferior when I visit blogs. I am not good at crafts, believe it or not. I can’t sew (I once spent 2 hours threading a bobbin and then cried and gave up), paint (hot.mess) or quilt. I burn everything I bake and I once poked myself in the eye with a knitting needle. It’s nice to know that not everything you make works out. NOTHING I make works out but at least I tried. BAHAHA! Thanks for your transparency, it’s much appreciated today.

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  4. caitlinmfrost Avatar

    ironically, the fact that you said you were going to do a quilted tree skirt inspired me to make one of my own! so see? it wasn’t really a wasted project after all! 🙂
    here’s mine: http://caitlinmfrost.wordpress.com/2013/12/18/anthropologie-inspired-christmas-tree-skirt/

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  5. Debra Avatar

    What a great post and a nice positive twist on what I’m sure we’ve all felt down about at some point. I think for every painting I have done, that I love, there are about 3 more that have been sent to the scrap pile but without those ‘experimental’ ones I wouldn’t have come up with half of the ideas for the good ones 🙂

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  6. Sarah Avatar

    Thanks for sharing that you are, in fact, a crafty normal mom, who doesn’t everything just right! Nice healthy balance and perspective, one reason I keep coming to your blog, its one of my top 5!

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  7. misti Avatar

    There’s nothing more frustrating than those few seconds before you finally give up on a project. The ‘I can do this’ or ‘I can turn this around’ before you realize you really just can’t. Oh, I’ve scrapped many art and crochet projects like that.
    But, hey, the scrap quilt later will be pretty awesome I’m sure!

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  8. Melissa D Avatar

    I’ve done that a lot with books lately. I hate to return an unfinished book to the library, but if I just can’t get into it…back it goes! So freeing!

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  9. Alysia Loerch Avatar

    Loved this post Elise! Its a great reminder that something good can come out a disaster DIY project.

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  10. Jenna Lou Avatar

    I think letting projects that aren’t working is a great skill… and really who wants something around as a reminder of what didn’t work. Hooray for letting go and moving on to better things!

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  11. MichelleB Avatar
    MichelleB

    Great post! Thank you for this much needed reminder that sometimes things just don’t work out!

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  12. Holli Anne Avatar

    I love that you just talked about projects that don’t pan out. In the world of Pinterest and pretty blogs, DIYs often seem well…perfect! But I’ve had many poor attempts at some projects. Great honesty!

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  13. Tammy Silvers Avatar

    I have a basket full of “that didn’t pan out” also! I’m thinking of letting that basket becoming someone else’s muse – and allowing me to move on (and use the valuable space it is taking up)! I agree – far better to attempt…and attempt…and sometimes succeed, sometimes not…than to let fear keep us from attempting at all! Here’s to less than perfect projects!

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  14. Cady Avatar
    Cady

    Knitting is soooo hard to rip out. I will sometimes live with little mistakes because time is valuable and knitting takes a lot of that valuable time. The best advice I’ve ever received with knitting – take your gauge. And do it ever single time with every single project. If you skip this step, it will only hurt you later.
    I remember you posting about the black and white knitted blanket and how you had to pick up more yarn to make it big enough – a gauge swatch would have helped you at least know that in advance. And the great part is that you can keep your gauge swatch for something fun or just rip it apart once you have measurements taken care of and you don’t waste that yarn!

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  15. Jennifer Henson Avatar

    What an awesome post! I feel that way, often! I just finished a rag quilt that I’d had the fabric for, forever… Rag quilts are known to be easy and mistake proof… not so with me. I have always hoped to be a sewer that inherited my mom’s gift for quilting, but I just am not going to be. It is so good to think “Oh, that didn’t pan out” and move onto another style of crafting I love! Thank you for a smile this morning!

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  16. Brianna Avatar
    Brianna

    I have a folder on my computer of novels and short stories that didn’t pan out. The goal this year is to finish at least one of them, find some way to make the story work. At least you’ll have a great scrap quilt at the end.

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  17. Welcome Home Taylor Avatar

    I have such a hard time stopping a project mid-way even though I know it wasn’t how I wanted it to be. But you’re right, it is so much more rewarding to stop, start over (or give up) and be satisfied rather than disappointed with the outcome. Moving on is sometimes the only option.
    xoxo
    Taylor
    http://www.welcomehometaylor.com

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  18. VA Avatar
    VA

    My office’s unofficial motto is “Fail early, fail cheap, fail often” – meaning, try new things, don’t fear failure, just manage risk. It’s a good philosophy to keep in mind in work and life!

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  19. caitlinmfrost Avatar

    ironically, once you announced you were doing a quilted tree skirt, you inspired me to do it. so see? it didn’t really fail after all! 🙂
    here’s mine: http://wp.me/p3H1z3-6l

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  20. oh shoot Avatar

    Its always good to hear that I am not the only one who works on projects and then realize that it is not working out like I had hoped it would. Right now I am knitting a sweater for my husband and it has been taking me forever. Over the holiday I told him that it not working out and that I need to move on from this project.

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  21. Campfire Kam Avatar

    This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning, Elise. Thank you.

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  22. Abbie Avatar
    Abbie

    I really love this post! Sometimes i feel like a failure if each and every project doesnt pan out! It seems like my favorite bloggers only have success;) it is a nice reminder that even YOU;) have projects that dont go quite as planned.

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  23. mjb Avatar

    What a freeing attitude!

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  24. elise blaha Avatar

    totally. the experiments make us better.

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  25. elise blaha Avatar

    oh yes! me too! there are WAY too many books to waste time on a bad one. 🙂

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  26. elise blaha Avatar

    great idea. It’s freeing to stick projects in the basket and it was SO freeing to go through that basket and clear space.

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  27. elise blaha Avatar

    obsessed with this. thanks for sharing.

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  28. elise blaha Avatar

    I bet the next five projects will go quickly and well because you let that one go. check plus!

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  29. elise blaha Avatar

    happy to hear this! looks great! 🙂

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    A

    I heard a story on the radio this week about failure. The narrator was talking about how he grew up with this idea that quitting was never right, but recently he realized that sometimes you have to make room in your life for a great project / person / idea / etc. to come along. I loved that thought

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  31. jannie Avatar
    jannie

    love, love, love this post. my heart thanks you, elise!

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  32. Judy Avatar
    Judy

    I, too was motivated to make a tree skirt after your post. Not quilted, no pic, but I finally turned the length of fabric I bought many years ago into the tree skirt it was meant to be.
    I’ve turned many failed fabric projects into napkins. We haven’t used paper in years.

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  33. Kathy Martin Avatar

    Loved hearing about your projects that didn’t pan out! 😉 I could totally relate. 🙂 Well…here’s to creativity and the next project. 🙂

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