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I've talked before about how my "one little words" for the past two years have stuck with me past the calendar end. "Brave," my 2013 word, will no doubt be the same. "Magic" & "Choose" have become almost mantras and feel like old friends. While they usually exist in the background, sometimes I'll read something or see something and they return, waving a banner, to the front.

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This weekend was a quiet one. I spent a lot of time reading Mindful Birthing by Nancy Bardacke. It was recommended to me by my midwife and I am really enjoying it. I wish I had heard about it sooner, but at the same time, am thrilled to have found something new to read this late in the game. My focus, for this book at least, is clear and I think the immediacy of what's ahead is helping me take it in more fully.

This passage, among many others, jumped out at me :

"Through a phenomenon known as nueroplasticity, when you use awareness to interrupt unhelpful mental patterns you are actually creating new neural pathways in your brain. As the saying goes, "Neurons that fire together wire together." If your neurons are frequently firing together in unhelpful repetitive patterns, such as being angry or frustrated, you get really good at anger and frustration. However, you can actually create new and more positive neural pathways by choosing to pay attention to something else. As you practice you come to feel different – steadier, more resilient, and less reactive to life's inevitable ups and downs – because you are different. You have used your mind to change your brain."                – Mindful Birthing

Super LOVE. Love that the italics on "choosing" was done by the author. Love that there is actual scientific evidence (cited in the book) to backup what I slowly came to realize in 2012. We make a million choices every day. We choose how we react to every event be it big or small, painful or exciting. Repeatedly choosing light can make a real difference.

I'm a month away from meeting my baby, no matter how she enters this world. Mother's Day marked the one month countdown.

I'm feeling relaxed and inspired.

p.s. unrelated, but awesome, Paul turned me on to the Explosions in the Sky Pandora station and it's a crazy winner.

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28 responses to “there it is again.”

  1. Alice Avatar

    I totally agree to this theory. I’ve come to find out about this phenomenon thanks to hypnose therapy last year. Love the selfies ! You must be super impatient to meet your baby girl ! Take care.

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  2. Amanda Avatar

    My high school principal always said “Life is all about choices!” We even had to finish his sentence on stage at graduation, shouting “CHOICES!” We teased him about it, because I don’t think any of us at that age really knew how true it was. Life is all about choices, something I’m still learning and reminding myself of every day. Thanks for today’s reminder, Elise 🙂

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  3. Carrievandelac Avatar

    Wow- the Explosions in the Sky Pandora station is awesome! Relaxing but energizing. Love it 🙂

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  4. Brianna Avatar
    Brianna

    I LOVE Explosions in the Sky! I’m so thrilled that someone else listens to them. I love that passage, too. It’s so true, whether you’re about to give birth or not. Thanks for sharing it.

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  5. Laura Avatar

    I love the Explosions in the Sky Pandora station as well! I’ve always been a huge Friday Night Lights fan, so finding that music on Pandora was a huge win for me.

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  6. lisa fine Avatar

    That quote is so true. We can choose how we react to different situations, and it’s almost always easier to get fired up when something doesn’t go your way, instead of staying calm and cool. It’s definitely a choice.
    Going to check out Explosions in the Sky today! Thanks!

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  7. Leah Buckley Avatar

    wow—i can’t tell you how much that passage resonates with me. thank you for sharing.

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  8. Kelsey Avatar

    So true, this quote makes me miss my neurosci lectures in college, never thought I’d see the day!

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  9. jessica o'brien | jessohbee Avatar

    my word last year was core and it continues to show itself to me again and again and again as well. last year, just before i found out i was pregnant, i took at 6-week mindfulness meditation course and i can easily say it changed my life. i liken the practice to exercise for your brain, in which you make it stronger than negative thoughts. so when negative feelings or runaway thoughts generated from anxiety or fear start coming, you can say, “thank you brain, but these thoughts aren’t helpful to me. i’m going to stop them now and turn my mind to something else.”

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  10. carter Avatar

    LOVE this quote. i might have to print it out, long as it is. thanks for sharing!!

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  11. traci madden Avatar
    traci madden

    thank you for sharing this passage; i have long believed in the power of choosing your reactions, it’s so great when science backs up your way of thinking! & my word of the year is ‘light’, & you just used it to make your point. so awesome.

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  12. Casey Avatar

    I just realized how big those new paintings really are by seeing them in reference to you. They are really amazing!!

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  13. Sarah {Finding Abundance} Avatar

    This is awesome. Thank you.

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  14. Angie Avatar
    Angie

    You’re on the right path, I think.
    I wish I knew a lot of these things you say here before I gave birth because, you see, it’s such a hormonal roller coaster that you make a fuss out of small things and you feel weird for a few days (sometimes even months).
    It’s like putting on a new pair of shoes that you really loved at the store: you still think they’re great but they hurt a bit and it takes a bit to get used to them. But once you get the hang of them, they are your favorite shoes.
    That was how it was for me. I felt so weird, to have this little person to care for. And well, for me it wasn’t really that “love at first sight” like some women say it is. I felt so weird. I wanted to feel like this explosion of sudden love or, well, I don´t know what I expected to feel… and then I didn’t and I thought there must be something wrong with me.
    There isn’t anything wrong with me and I learned that it is not like that with everybody. I got to know my little girl and fell in love with her (didn’t take long either).
    Anything can happen. I now have the most amazing 22 month old and I would give my life for her in less than a blink.
    I wish I could live it all again. I think i would pay more attention to the little details and stress less if I could.

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  15. Sandy Avatar
    Sandy

    Sounds like a great book. And so true. Not much longer. Can’t wait to see photos.

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  16. Kathy Avatar

    Sounds like you are in a really good place. I think with the birth of your first child you can only prepare yourself so much and life takes over whether you do it naturally or need a little help with a c-section for baby to arrive in this world. I had 2 c-sections because James (who is now 9) didn’t want to come out and I was induced but nothing happened. I never worried about not giving birth naturally I was happy with a safe healthy baby. I never ever felt like I had missed out, didn’t know what other mothers were talking about…a healthy arrival for bub and a healthy mumma is all that matters. So go with the flow and whatever happens baby Cripe will be here very soon and you will be in amazement and wonder – as I’ve mentioned before babies are born every day of the year all over the world but when you actually have a baby of your own….it will be 1000 times more incredible that you and your husband actually created this little human being…all of that stuff is mind boggling….feet up and enjoy a quiet month. So excited for you. I can’t believe I have been reading your blog since before you got married and now you are having a baby, coming along the ride with you from the other side of the world. I think I found your blog more than likely through Ali Edwards way back when. Be prepared for the lack of sleep and that one can’t be under estimated but it is a wonderful start to your family. All the best. Regards Kathy A, Brisbane, Australia

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    Andi

    I think it’s awesome that a book like this can deliver advice for not only moms to be but for someone who isn’t even expecting. That passage can be applied to anyone, which makes the book in my opinion a winner!

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    Adelaide

    That paragraph was literally the thing I needed to hear (read lol) today. Having been grumpy all morning about an argument and wishing I could just move on, it was perfect to read that and remember that we choose how we act and feel.
    Love love love that quote 🙂

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  19. ChrisyC Avatar

    Your post is bringing back memories of those weeks before my baby girl was born. Like you, l read a lot and studied up on different mindful exercises to do during birth. I had a bouncy ball to sit on, relaxation music, visual prompts to stick on the wall, stress balls for my hands, massage oil….and you know what? I didn’t use any of it. 🙂
    Motherhood and giving birth was probably my first big opportunity to learn how to give up control.
    It’s such a different process for everyone, and in the end you do really only have control over your own state of mind and thoughts.
    If l had my time over again, l would be more open to the whole spectrum of possibilities so l didn’t feel like such a failure when my desired plan didn’t eventuate 🙂

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  20. elise blaha Avatar

    🙂 I hear you. I have none of those things. And no plan but to roll with it. This book is amazing for learning to roll.

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  21. Angie Avatar

    Ooooh!!! Thank you SO much for posting this quote. I have severe OCD… Not the “must clean” kind (sadly) but the constant worrying, praying, etc. kind… and I was told once that every time a negative OCD thought enters my brain, I should focus on something else, such as a positive. I tried for a while, I must try again. Thank you!

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  22. J3SS1C4 Avatar

    That except is certainly interesting. I’ve heard stuff like that before, and it really does prove to be true, at least it has in my life. It’s so hard to believe that your only a month away from meeting your bub… It’s gone so quick!

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  23. Kelly Jean Avatar

    What an amazing quote that applies to all of life. I deal with anxiety and this is a perfect quote for me in this moment. I’m glad you are relaxed and inspired. I can only hope I am this way during pregnancy.

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  24. Amy Avatar

    I love this! Choosing to be positive and hopeful and POWERFUL during childbirth. I feel like I did that and was encouraged by so many women before me. Namely, my mom, my aunts, my midwives, who all had natural births before me. I loved reading birth stories with my first pregnancy (not my second one, which was weird), but I thought you may like to read — I chose, during the contractions, that those sensations were bringing me closer to my baby. Each contraction, I CHOSE to say “baby you’re closer!” Blessings to you, Elise.
    http://wildflowerramblings.wordpress.com/home-birth/my-son/
    http://wildflowerramblings.wordpress.com/home-birth/the-water-birth-of-my-daughter/

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  25. elise blaha Avatar

    beautiful birth stories! thanks for sharing. 🙂

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  26. Lola Avatar
    Lola

    I would absolutely love to have your mornings! Sadly, I have to get up every day and head to work. No time to myself, no time to fully wake-up and enjoy the morning sun, the outdoors, etc.

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  27. Scrappyjen Avatar
    Scrappyjen

    I was like that too. With my first it was like any new relationship. When you meet someone new it takes a lot of time spent together getting to know them (be it friendship, love interest, meeting the in-laws etc), finding out their quirks and unique qualities and figuring out how to fit them into your life and you in theirs and just figuring out how your relationship works. With my second it was a bit more immediate. Love the breadth of experience children bring to our lives.

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  28. Scrappyjen Avatar
    Scrappyjen

    Being mindful in birth is so key. Completely agree with you. My second son’s birth was the most phenomenal thing I have ever experienced for exactly that reason. I LOVED MY LABOUR! I totally put that down to the choices and the thoughts I chose to focus on during my pregnancy. I chose to read positive birth stories (found this to be an awesome resource http://www.traceyrose.com). I listened to music that made me feel uplifted and compiled a list of scriptures that spoke to me about birth and repeatedly focused on them and phrases like “As soon as my labour begins my body relaxes”, “The deeper I move into labour the more relaxed I become” and it completely worked I actually fell asleep twice while in labour because I was so relaxed. That focused thought before my birth totally paid off during. Usually can’t focus to save my life but I was so in the moment during his birth. I wasn’t thinking ahead I wasn’t thinking about what had passed I was just living that moment. You are so on the right track wishing you a blessed and beautiful birth for you and your little one.

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