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Cue Ross, "We were on a breaaaaaaaak."

Crazy story: three months from today exactly (Christmas Day! Who starts a blog on Christmas Day?!) I will have been doing this for ten years. That's all of my twenties. That's really my entire adult life. It's hard for me to remember a time before blogging or even an event I've processed without writing about it.

For the most part, I have kept this site small and personal. No guest posts. No contributors. No assistants. Minimal sponsored content (though there have been a ton of affiliate links). All the recipes shared or projects completed are real things I have done…for my life, not for blog content. For better or worse, there have been no photographers or editors. It's just been me, day after day, week after week, typing away.

And it's been a good 9.75 years.

I started this blog in college while trying to find a career direction. It witnessed the move from California to Maryland to live with a boy. It watched that boy become my fiance then my husband then my partner in parenthood. It struggled with me through two deployments and four moves. It was my record as I documented those moves and decorated those houses. It watched my rocky start to motherhood and then my joy as I settled into this role. It saw me try many different businesses before finally landing on what feels like the one.

In some ways, it feels like a lifetime. But then I remember I'm 30 and my life is starting, not ending. 😉 There have been so many highs and lows this past decade, but today? Today it feels like Paul and I are just getting to the good part. We're putting in the time and dealing with the long hours. We're making mistakes, feeling stupid and then trying to improve. We're raising our sweet kiddo and she's teaching us more than college ever did. We're making plans for the future and dreaming the big dreams. Yep, it's a wonderful place in life to be.

And it's also the right time for me to take a break from the daily 5am posting to this blog.

I am incredibly grateful that I started writing when I was 20 years old. I am grateful for these past ten years that I have lived and shared. I've made it clear many times that much of my "career success" is due to this blog. And I've made it clear that much of the blog success is due to "posting consistently." But I've also said (though maybe not as loud as I should have) "when something feels like it's not working, re-work it"

This is not a decision to "quit the blog" but instead it's a decision to figure out how this blog still fits into my job and life. I do think I will write a bit here over the next few months, but I have no idea what that will look like. I'll be using the "time off" to determine what I want this space to be. I need to think about why I'm writing here, and that's really hard to do when I'm still trying to crank out content every day.

In October I'll be working on podcast episodes. I'll be answering emails and monitoring customer service requests. I'll be shipping GTWBs. And of course, I'll be celebrating the time my family has left as just three (and probably watching a Scandal episode or four).

If all goes well, in early November we'll welcome our second daughter (I'll share a birth announcement here just like Ellerie's). There will still be behind the scenes work to do, of course, but I look forward to taking a more consistent maternity leave this time around. I really blew it last time and handled the newborn months terribly. I can't redo that period unfortunately, but I can learn from it and give myself a bit more grace (and space) the second time.

Around Christmas Day, I'll re-evaluate and decide what makes the most sense blog-wise for my family of four and for my business. Posting twice a week? Posting twice a month? Returning to every day? Who knows? I have loved this blog and I am not sure I'll ever want to give up writing completely, but right now I am overwhelmed with relief to be pressing pause.

As always, but even more so today, I appreciate you checking in and reading. I say that often, I know, but I mean it often. The fact that so many of you have shared your comments, stories, thoughts, support and kindness back at me through the Internet is the best part of this whole site.

While posting is sporadic here, I'll continue to IG away @elisejoy so if you're into book recs, recipe shares, podcast quote call outs, coffee mugs, Ellerie pigtails, the occasional real-time craft project, adventures in house-hunting(!?) and yep, bump pics and newborn photos, I'll see you there.

Thank you.

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218 responses to “the one with the break.”

  1. Kelly K Avatar
    Kelly K

    You deserve it,but I am really going to miss my morning coffee date. Thank you for all the advice and inspiration over the years!

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  2. liz Avatar

    I’m cheering you on and am so proud of you for listening to what you most need. Yes. Yes. Yes.
    Big love your way dear girl. xoxo

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  3. Caitlyn Avatar
    Caitlyn

    Elise, enjoy your break and find the right balance for you! I love your blog and really look forward to reading it every day, but it’s so important to find what’s right for you…and to be honest, after 10 years of doing the same thing, we would all be ready for a break!
    Will still be following along in whatever new capacity you decide is right for you and your family.

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  4. Theresa Avatar
    Theresa

    Your blog was the 1st one that I started reading daily. Everything you share is so uplifting and inspiring- even the hard stuff because I felt less alone (for example post partum craziness). I’m so very happy for your little family and you, that you’re taking this leap. This time away. This time fully present with your littles. I wish you nothing but the best & can’t wait to see how your blog evolves from here. Congratulations and best of luck!!

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  5. Megan Powell Avatar

    I am so sad to hear this Elise! But I completely understand that people need a break, and you should be enjoying the time with your family. I really hope that you will continue to use this space, I have been a reader for over 5 years now, and you are ALWAYS the first blog I read every single morning. I have so enjoyed reading about your life, and your family, and I am wishing you all the best 🙂

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  6. Anne Linn Avatar
    Anne Linn

    Go you for taking a break and letting yourself rethink what you want to do! That is always healthy! Like everyone else is saying, because it is true; I will miss you in this space. (And in all honesty secretly pray that you will miss writing (in any form!) because “she´s your lobster”) 🙂 All the best onward and thank you!

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  7. Steffi Avatar
    Steffi

    Dear Elise,
    I’ve been waiting for this post for quite some time. I could feel you needing this break, it literally has been pouring through your words- written and spoken – for months. And you are so right! As a German mama (second is due by Christmas) I can’t imagine working during those first weeks, especially when you already have a child in your family.
    Thank you so much for everything you shared here! And all the best wishes for the magical time ahead of you!

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  8. Alli Avatar
    Alli

    so while i am not sure what i will be doing every morning instead of looking at the post for the day, i think this is awesome and i am super excited for you;) good for you and a virtual high five for making the decison!!!!👏👏👏

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  9. Ellen Bornstein Avatar

    Thank you Elise for sharing your life, your journey and your thoughts. I almost feel like I have watched a daughter grow through her most important life moments. I have only one grandson (but many grand nieces and nephews) and so I have really enjoyed your Ellerie photos and stories and watching her grow into an adorable little girl. I will miss your blog posts because they are kind, gentle and thoughtful and enrich my life but you have made a decision to do what works with your life as it evolves. Wishing you all the best on your journey and hope to read more about it in the future.

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  10. Stacy Avatar
    Stacy

    Elise, I found your blog three years ago and have been a daily reader and fan of yours ever since. I have often wondered how you do so much so well and I have always appreciated that you share the good AND the bad… keeping things real. I completely understand why you need a break and I am happy you are taking one. That said, I will miss your daily blog posts dearly since your blog is my favorite. I don’t drink coffee in the morning. I read your blog instead. Change is good, though, and I wish you and your sweet family the best. And selfishly, I do hope you return after your break…at least a couple days each week. God bless and thank you for inspiring me. Enjoy your time away.

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  11. Jess Avatar
    Jess

    I don’t often comment, but I wanted to join the chorus in saying that I will really miss your posts while you are away. I find your blog to be thoughtful, fun, funny, candid, emotional, and just fantastic. I always look forward to reading. I hope hope hope that you’ll be back for more, but I wish you the best at this exciting moment for your family.

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  12. Carrie Avatar

    it’s the end of an era (also a friends reference)

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  13. Tashia D Avatar

    I completely understand needing a break, but I definitely echo what everyone else is saying. I will for sure miss checking in here every morning. You’ve been a huge inspiration. Best wishes for a safe delivery of baby girl. I’ll look forward to following along on IG.

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  14. Amanda Avatar
    Amanda

    I will miss your daily posts, Elise.
    Best wishes!!

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  15. Wendy Avatar
    Wendy

    Hi Elise! I love reading your blog but hope that you will enjoy this time off. You deserve it! In the meantime, I will just patiently await for my GTWB. 🙂

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  16. Celeste Avatar
    Celeste

    Thank you for your blog. Over the years it has been one of the few daily reads for me, and I have appreciated your commitment to providing frequent posts. But I support your decision to step back and be more present in your real life, the one that matters. You can always step back into the blogosphere but you can’t step back into the fleeting moments of motherhood and early married life. My sincere wishes that you enjoy every day away!

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  17. Casey Avatar
    Casey

    Haha I just imagined her evolving like a pokemon >.<

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  18. Gisele Chastain Avatar

    Oh man, mixed emotions!! I’m so happy for you taking time to figure it all out, but sad for an email inbox without Elise daily. That being said…whatever you decide to put your time and heart into will be incredible and totally worth the change so really I’m excited to see what you decide and what new or more focused adventures your journey takes you on!
    Thanks for sharing your life with us! As always, you’re an inspiration!

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  19. Jennifer Avatar
    Jennifer

    oh, I’m glad for you….happy, even. But so sad for myself! Your blog has been the way I begin my day. Through my own life’s changes, challenges — your blog has been my source of goodness, a smile, reality — my boyfriend and I routinely ask ourselves and each other “is this a real problem or a pretend problem?”
    I will miss you dearly, my internet friend.

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  20. Megan P Avatar
    Megan P

    Have a nice break! I’m just hoping you don’t pull a Young House Love and quit blogging entirely after the allotted time is up….

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  21. Katy Avatar

    Like everyone else who has commented, I will miss your posts, but applaud you for being brave enough to try something different. I have read probably every post for the past four years and am completely amazed that you post such awesome content with such consistency. Just think about how much free time you will have now to come up with new amazing ideas (or to take a nap). Thank you!

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  22. Kathleen Avatar

    This is going to be so good for you! I feel vicarious relief. You’re going to love the break, it’s something that’s needed for everyone. Of course I’m going to miss you but I’ll definitely follow along on IG and I’m excited for you!

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  23. Kate Lathrop Avatar
    Kate Lathrop

    Hugs – when something you love and enjoy doing starts to feel like a chore, that’s a great time to reevaluate where it fits (or no longer fits) into your life. I have loved following your blog, seeing your life grow and expand, and I really appreciate how honest you are with the good, the bad, and the in between.
    Regardless of what you choose to do, no one will think less of you for it. You’ll have your hands full with 2 sweet girlies, your podcasting, the GTW, and the life you’re creating and living with your family.
    See you on Instagram – and a bit hug to Ellerie – it’s been such FUN watching her grow and become such an amazing little human. I look forward to following her adventures and those of her soon to arrive sister.

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  24. Alice Avatar

    I have really enjoyed being a daily reader. Thank you for all the work that you have shared. I look forward to what you continue to do. You can be proud that you are taking care of yourself. Best of luck.

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  25. Rachel Avatar

    Wishing you all the best for you new baby. Enjoy your break – as a long time reader from the days back before you were married, I’ve felt a shift the last couple of months, and am glad to hear you are taking care of yourself and your family first. Sometimes we need to admit we can’t do everything. Kudos for stepping up and doing what you needed to. I hope your break is restful (as much as it can be with a new baby and active toddler!) and I can’t wait to see what you come up with when you come back.

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  26. Elizabeth Avatar

    Seriously, this was the loveliest thing I’ve seen on the internet in a long time : )

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  27. Ella Avatar
    Ella

    I have found so much in this space that has left me thinking, left me inspired and helped me grow! I look forward to following you and your business on Instagram and your podcast. Good for you for taking a breath and re-evaluating and treasuring the moment you are in now.
    The outpouring of support here is truly a testament to how special you and this space are!

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  28. Nicole prather Avatar
    Nicole prather

    Enjoy your blog!
    But as always life is constantly changing!
    You were brave enough to write the struggles of first time motherhood and changed so many peoples life’s in the most difficult journey they will ever walk.
    You inspire uplift motivate so many!
    Thank you always for your bravery of speaking your truth!
    Enjoy your babies because time is so precious.
    God bless you sister!

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  29. Cortney Avatar
    Cortney

    HI Elise,
    First, change is good, especially when it involves time to reflect and grow and evolve.
    Second, I have a very hopeful request: do you think you might release a 2016 printable version of the PROGRESS chart? I totally love that thing, and would snap one up for keeping myself accountable.
    Third, you’ll be missed, but you should also know that you built something gorgeous and lastly and authentic.
    Brava!!

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  30. Mk Avatar
    Mk

    Thank You so much for sharing! I have loved reading this blog & am sending you the very best of luck. Wishing you & your lovely family much happiness – good on you for always being so authentic, honest, generous & just so interesting!!!! You are wonderful. And this blog has been a joy to read (I will keep Tuning in)! Take care xxx

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  31. michelle t Avatar
    michelle t

    I’ve not been here as long as many others, just shy of 2 years, Ellerie was a few months old, and like many others, I read daily. I’ve enjoyed my time here, time well spent. I’ll occasionally look on Instagram. I wish you all the best. Take care. Michelle t

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  32. Karen Avatar
    Karen

    Just another voice of appreciation for everything you’ve put into this blog! I’ll definitely miss your voice but completely understand.

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  33. Julie Avatar
    Julie

    Well, I’d better chime in and say that I have read your blog for four years now and yours is the only blog I actually read. I check it every day when I need a “break” from work. I talk about things that you write with my husband or family and, rather than explain – this woman who writes this fantastic blog that I read all the time- I just call you my internet friend. 😀 [Funny story: your beloved university’s band was in Park City while I was there for my 10 year anniversary trip and I followed them as they marched down the street and even took a video and thought- Hey! My friend Elise’s band is here! I should send her a video and share the love!- and then I never sent it. Hah!]
    I am so glad you have shared your thoughts and life and ideas here and given me a reprieve and connection back to creativity and fun and great ideas. I am so glad for you [although sad for me!] that you are taking a much needed reprieve for yourself. Enjoy the new baby, re-evaluate what you need to thrive, and feel the gratitude for the sharing you’ve done.
    {I would add that I’ll be lurking around, following your new ventures- but that might come off a little creepy…] Instead, I’ll say: Congratulations– on everything– and I can’t wait to see where life takes you next. I’m sure it will be amazing.

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  34. Julie Avatar
    Julie

    Hah! That last paragraph is exactly how I was feeling. And it was so odd! But real! 😀

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  35. Ashlee Avatar

    Amen, girl. Enjoy the time, the slowness, the breath, the brain space, that newborn bubble. Love you!

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  36. Grace Avatar

    I echo what so many have said before – you’ve become a routine part of my mornings and I’m so grateful to have had that over these last few years since I found you. But I know how such a rigorous blogging schedule is really tough (I tried to emulate you and just had to scale back and back until I hit a comfortable place – which feels great and also has me high fiving you big time for doing this for nearly 10 full years – but also for recognizing that you wanted to reevaluate. Good for you on both accounts, Elise!). We’ll all be here, eagerly reading whatever you do decide to post on whatever time table you decice. 🙂 xoxo

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  37. Jessica Rodarte Avatar

    I’ve enjoyed reading your blog throughout the years and will continue reading whenever you post. This break makes complete sense. There’s so much on your plate. Of course there are plenty of us who are sad, but we’ll be okay. With time and therapy, we’ll all be okay. 😉

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  38. Lisa K. Avatar
    Lisa K.

    Good for you! You are absolutely doing the right thing for your family and I’m super impressed. I will really miss your amazing blog. It is the first on my short list of blogs to read, because of your awesome writing and creativity. But you are making the smart choice for the people who matter most to you, so hooray for you! I must echo what Emily said above about your first newborn experience – that you did the best you could at the time, as we all do. Your beautiful thriving 2-year old is evidence that you’re a wonderful mom! Best of luck to you with the amazing chapter ahead with baby #2. 🙂

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  39. Za Avatar

    You should always follow your heart, I’ll be missing reading your blog everyday though. Have a good next few months!

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  40. Hilary Avatar
    Hilary

    I’ll miss your posts!
    Best of luck and enjoy some time off with your family! 🙂

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  41. Hannah B. Avatar
    Hannah B.

    Thank goodness for ‘pause’ … and not ‘stop’ or ‘eject’ or ‘disk jammed’ 😉
    I’m going to echo what a few other commenters have said – thank you for inadvertently helping me navigate my early 20s. Thank you for being the tiny voice in the back of my mind that said “do what makes you happy!” when I had so many conflicting opinions around me about the ‘right’ relationship, choosing jobs, and whether or not to buy a house. Plus, the homemade pizzas and cold brew have been game changers 😉
    See ya on Insta, and know that we’ll all be happy to read when you are ready to write!

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  42. Tristin Wright Avatar

    As I listened to the John and Sherry podcast, one small comment you made gave me a brief “Is Elise considering a blog break?” feeling. ; ) Also, I found it interesting that they made the conscious effort to call Young House Love their website, not a blog. Like them, what you have created is an amazing archive with so much rich content–and just because you don’t post daily or even weekly doesn’t mean that it’s not relevant. (Wait, that was in the podcast, too–but I swear it was an organic thought.) ; ) I love that you have created a business in which you are in control of your destiny, and you’re not afraid to shift the balances when you need to. It’s been a pleasure being a consistent reader, but the example you’re setting is even more valuable than the content–it’s just so authentic. I hope that made sense.
    Enjoy the ride, and have fun focusing on the other pieces of the puzzle!

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  43. Laura Avatar
    Laura

    With all due respect, I think you have needed this for a while. Best of luck. Looking forward to seeing what you do in the future.

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  44. Mandy Avatar
    Mandy

    So happy for you Elise and your family, enjoy this well earned break. I will miss my daily morning fix but am so grateful for all the inspiration and motivation you have given me over the last few years!!

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  45. Sarah Stäbler Avatar

    The others have said it all. You will be missed around here for sure. I wish you a wonderful break and hope that you enjoy the pause. I’ll be following on IG and looking forward to a day when you feel ready to “un-pause”. 🙂 You’re such an inspiration and I really appreciate all of the time you’ve spent on this blog. Enjoy your break, your new routine, and may it be filled with wonderful moments as you figure out your next steps. Above all, enjoy your family, your soon-to-be-here new baby, and your holidays! We are rooting for you, Elise!

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  46. Traci Healey Avatar
    Traci Healey

    I’ve always respected how you’ve blogged, and respect you so much more as you take this time for you and your family! I’ll miss the daily updates (you are my fave) but these years with a young family deserve the time it demands and I’m sure your blog readers (me!) will welcome you back wholeheartedly whenever and however you return.
    P.S. my experience after my first baby was ROUGH. But the second and third time were dreamy and way more relaxed. It just felt right. Soak it up!

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  47. dawn Avatar
    dawn

    I have tears while reading this, happy and sad ones. It’s been just over a year since I fond your blog and I’ve loved everything you share here so much. You are amazing and inspire me SO MUCH!! LOVE the stories and pictures you share of your sweet girl and the excitement and love I can hear in your words about your family. THANK YOU THANK YOU for all you share here and for keeping it real and so fun.
    Drying my tears now and saying GO ELISE GO!! Enjoy this special time with your family and it’s so great that your taking this time, good for you!! It’s the best time right now in your life and I’m so happy for you and Paul!! Wishing you the best of luck and know you will do AMAZING at this mom of 2 kids role.
    I do hope you will come back at least part time, I always wondered how you and some of the others that blog daily do it. I’d be thrilled with once a week. Excited to see what’s next on your journey and we will all be here waiting and stalking you on IG, lol.
    BIG HUGS!!

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  48. Jenny Avatar
    Jenny

    Like everyone above, I feel sad but totally understand your decision. You have been such an open, honest, inspiring voice, your hard work and dedication is awesome! I have loved reading every post, listening to every podcast, and thankfully it’s all still here to check back on! Best, best of luck with this new stage, and as you can see, we will all be here waiting for whatever you choose to do next.

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  49. Evi Avatar

    I’m so sad to read you will stop publishing every week day because I love this moments but I totally understand what you think and what you want in your life. Take care and welcome this new baby girl !!!

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  50. Jamie Avatar

    See you soon! (big hugs for doing this for yourself) = )

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