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GOALS

If you've been here for longer than a month you might have learned that I am big on setting goals. If you've been here a few years you might think my blog is synonymous with setting goals. If you're new here (hi!) these are a few long-term goals that I've talked about at length : mileaday, make29, the daily card, the 26 projects, the 40 loaves.

I recently had to update my bio for a few different things and the first line of my new "about me" reads :

Elise Blaha Cripe is a blogger, crafter and goal setter in San Diego, California.

Yep. Goals are my "thing." But something I don't think I have every really explored (here on the blog or even in my head) is why I set goals. What's the point? Why do I love it? I am going to attempt to answer this today.

I set goals so I have something outside the day-to-day to focus on. No matter how glamorous your life, you still have a "daily grind." You get up, make coffee, get dressed, check email, eat, work, eat, work, eat, watch tv, read, sleep. That's it. (Plus or minus a few kiddos and/or pets to care for.) There is nothing wrong with the daily grind. I am incredibly grateful that my days are mundane because for me it means my family is functioning and whole. However, if I only had an endless stretch of the same day ahead of me, I'd get a little antsy. So I set big goals to give me a little something extra to work on and move towards outside the normal routine.

I set goals to keep the focus internal and not external. The Internet has made it so not only can we see our own feedback in real time, we can see the feedback that others are getting as well. It's way too easy to compare how we are perceived to how others are received. "Look how many followers she has!" "I can't believe how many retweets he got!" "Look at the likes on that photo!" "Wow, he got 100 comments on that post!" It's much harder to do the competitive comparison with specific, personal goals. I can't look at some random person on Instagram and think "Wow, their MAKE29 project is so much more successful than mine." because no one else HAS a MAKE29 project (and if they did we could never compare 1 to 1 because it would be so different). Setting unique and special-to-me goals help me focus more on myself and what I am doing vs. Successful Internet Stranger and what she is doing.

I set goals because I want to learn and grow. Like nearly everyone, I love to learn new things. The best way that I have found to learn something new is to get uncomfortable and step outside my comfort zone. Once outside of my "zone" there only two options : fail or succeed. Either way I learn something. Either way I "grow" because I gain experience that helps me relate to others and/or tackle something else.

Yep. Those are my reasons. Pretty simple (and obvious) when I write them out. I love to pick goals that are hard enough to stretch my strengths and improve my weaknesses, but are not so impossible that I am discouraged at the start. A good goal is motivating throughout, even when it's hard. Perhaps especially when it's hard. A good goal will inspire you and be relevant to you. A good goal will challenge you and force you to grow. I am not interested in trying for myself 95% of the random goals that people set, but I am incredibly interested in the fact that they set them and the tools they used and skills they developed to reach them. People are fascinating. Goals are inspiring. People are inspiring. Goals are fascinating.

PS : here's a related post from summer 2012 with thoughts on monthly goal setting.

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Today on ELISE GETS CRAFTY I am chatting with Chris Guillebeau about creative quests and his new book, The Happiness of Pursuit. Click here to subscribe or stream the episode from your computer here.

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29 responses to “why I set goals.”

  1. Carrie Avatar

    Again, great post and great points.

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  2. Leah Avatar

    Awesome awesome awesome awesomeness!! 🙂
    Thumbs up, check plus, yes yes yes.

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  3. Vera Avatar

    I love what you say about internal versus external focus!
    I too find it important to commit to things that are outside my comfort zone in order to learn and grow. Even though there is usually a moment when I freak out. Yesterday I got an offer to write a monthly comlumn on vegetable growing for a Dutch gardening magazine and that’s exactly that kind of thing – both awesome and intimidating. An opportunity to grow and learn for sure!

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  4. andrea Avatar

    you brought it perfectly to the point. Goals are what keeps us going even if they are small. And it’s such a good feeling when you finished a goal and cross if off your list.

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  5. Johanna Avatar

    This is one of my favorite posts I’ve read on your blog. So totally simple and obvious indeed but mind-opening and assuring and all those good things. I thank you, Successful Internet Stranger E.J.B.C.! 🙂

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  6. Anna Avatar

    Love this and all your posts on goals – keep them coming! I have been goal-setting for the past year or so, and have been trying to do it more thoughtfully lately. In particular, I want to make sure I have a good “why” behind the goals I set, rather than just picking things that seem new and fun. I want to make sure my goals are genuinely challenging and really do push me to learn and grow in areas that matter to me.

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  7. Brianna Avatar
    Brianna

    This post is so on point. I get a little envious sometimes when I see people getting more comments/likes/retweets/favorites/whatever and I’m being ignored. I can go months without a response to something. That’s hard. It makes me want to quit. But the goals I set are definitely for me, to make myself better at writing, at reading, at editing, at critiquing. I’ll never be a successful Etsy shop owner because I’m not a designer. And that’s okay. If there’s anything I’m learning in my 30s it’s that it’s okay.

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  8. Juliette Avatar
    Juliette

    I don’t comment often, but I read your blog daily. Your projects/goals inspire me to chip away at my own. Thank you for sharing both what and why you are doing. I’d love to thank you in person one day, but at least I can thank you here!

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  9. elise blaha cripe Avatar

    made me smile, thanks! 🙂

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  10. Kelly Avatar

    One of my first thoughts when waking up this morning was, “It’s Wednesday! Elise has a new podcast up!”
    I really enjoyed listening today. The statement that ‘Experience produces confidence’ really struck me. I personally struggle with lack of confidence (and perfectionism!) and the bottom line is—just do it!! The confidence will come. What a great statement to repeat over and over when I’m feeling not too sure of myself.
    Thanks again for doing these podcasts and the hard work that goes into making them!

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  11. Erica Ladd Avatar

    I love the “why” behind setting goals, and you have really hit the nail on the head with goals keeping the focus internal instead of external. So true.

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  12. Sarah Milligan Avatar

    Love your take on this subject. I completely admire your goal-setting and how you get stuff done. I have a real-life friend who operates in a very similar manner, and man, is she productive! I often think of how similar she is to you.
    It’s so true that the daily grind can fill up every minute of our time if given the opportunity. Kids, even more so. I’m inspired to set some goals to work towards and see what happens. Thanks for the tips and inspiration, as always. 🙂
    PS – I keep meaning to take your ‘i choose’ course! Maybe that’s a good goal. 🙂

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  13. Bobbi Rubinstein Avatar

    Just finished listening to the podcast. I also wake up on Wednesdays and say “Elise has another podcast!” This one was spot on for me. This weekend I decided to pursue my goal of traveling to another country by myself, no husband, no grown kids, just me. My daughters have lived in other countries and I want to see if I can do it. I love England and have spent my whole life reading about it. And I love cities too. I’m going to get Chris’s book because I also like reading about quests. Now I have one of my own. I’ve already added an adventure blog to my photo website/blog. http://www.bobbirubinstein.com Thanks, Elise!

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  14. Danielle Avatar

    I’m new to your blog and I just wanted to say it is a breath of fresh air and so inspiring! I love setting goals and I’ve been in a bit of a lull lately (having a 4 month old might have something to do with it :)). I think I’m ready to get back at it. Thanks! Looking forward to reading more.

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  15. casie Avatar
    casie

    2 part question for you Elise on goal setting and your projects over all:
    #1 – how do you set goals and not allow them to be the focus of your every day?
    I love to set goals and write daily to do lists but I find with 2 little boys with varying or no nap schedules, I get frustrated and discouraged when I can achieve the goals or lists I set you to accomplish.
    #2 – With your projects being homemade and lots of effort on your part into them, are you able to emotionally disconnect from their “success” once they are out of your control? (i.e., a make 29 print is released for sale and doesn’t sell out as fast as previous ones) I find when I share something I consider profound or awesome on instagram and it only gets a few “likes” I feel like it is a failure or flop.
    thanks for this simple yet amazing posts to the inside of your processes! I too love reading how people function, work and thrive!

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  16. elise blaha cripe Avatar

    hang in there mama! you’re awesome!!

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  17. elise blaha cripe Avatar

    #1 – This post talks a bit more about separating goals and to-do list items. http://eliseblaha.typepad.com/golden/2013/01/goals-vs-todos.html
    #2 – I can never totally disconnect and I think that’s a good thing. This is MY business. I am able to look at things somewhat arbitrarily though and that just comes from practice and experience. Something that I have learned is that comments, shares and “likes” never directly translate to $$$ and so I can’t get too caught up in that. I don’t take risks that I can’t take a hit in (meaning if NOTHING sells I’ll still be okay financially) so that relieves a lot of the pressure. 🙂

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  18. JC Avatar

    Goals are awesome. I never thought of having mundane days as meaning that your family is functional, but that is a very true statement. It gives me another perspective on my current situation. Thanks!

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  19. Jess Avatar

    Great post and I am excited to hear this podcast, clicking over now!

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    jaws

    This resonates so well with me! Your goals have allways facinated me, and I really enjoyed this post! It is so easy to get lost in day to day chores,and everybody elses needs, but some goals or ongoing projects, even if they are small, can make me feel a lot better about myself. And by formulating my goals clearly and to the rest of the family (inspired by you), I have “regained” a bit more controll over how my time is spent. And over time, my small goals are giving results that I am really proud of! So thank you 🙂

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  21. Stephanielists Avatar

    I’m a big goal setter as well, it keeps me motivated and growing. I created a Lifetime To Do List for myself at http://www.stephanielists.com/2012/07/the-list.html

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  22. Julia Avatar
    Julia

    Great post, thank you for sharing! Also, awesome podcast episode.

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  23. Welcome Home Taylor Avatar

    I am a goal-making feign. I love making business goals, blog goals, personal goals, financial goals, you name it, I goal it! Personal goals always make me feel so much more successful, proud of myself, and they keep my head on straight. When ever I’m feeling uninspired or anxious, I make a list of goals and that usually helps me out.
    xoxo
    Taylor

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  24. Erin Avatar

    Love this post. I’ve tried so hard to stick with my monthly goals but these past few months have been hectic with work and playing single mom while the husband travels so much for his job and now with selling our house and moving a few states away. I’m looking forward to settling in to my new life and becoming more intentional with my goals. And hopefully actually crossing a few monthly goals off that I’ve accomplished instead of just longingly looking at them!

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  25. Julie Avatar
    Julie

    Hello! I just discovered your blog a few months ago, and to be honest, I didn’t think it would “stick.” I wasn’t sure we had a lot in common, or that it would fit my life or become part of my routine. I’m not a mother, or military wife (or wife) or blogger or crafter…but then, I just kept coming back. You’re posts can be helpful, inspirational, motivational. But what I love most is your drive and your honesty. I really connect. Just wanted to say thank you for sharing so openly and honestly. It’s scary putting yourself out there, I really appreciate it…and I love your word of the year/goals/to do lists! This post was great too!

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  26. Julie Avatar
    Julie

    Good luck with your quest! I did London alone and loved it and am planning a trip back to England, I hope yours works out for you!

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    please follow me on http://worldtravel.destinacijeusrbiji.rs/ i need help to be succesful like you… greetins! and thanks!

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  28. Life Thinkist Avatar

    Great post. I also love setting goals. I think it’s always good to remember why you want to do something just like you wrote here. Speaking of why to do goals, one trick I’ve used to reach specific goals is to write out a list of about 7 reasons why I want to reach the goal. Kind of like you did here writing a few reasons why you set goals. Like if your goal is to go to yoga classes for 2 months, one of the reasons why might be “I will feel more relaxed around my family in the evenings”.
    But my best tip is probably this: “Remember to write your goal down on a piece of paper and read it to yourself every day.” I recently wrote about how to do that.” You seem like an expert at setting goals so you probably don’t need this 😉 But I wrote about how to do it recently. Thanks for a great article.
    Set and Achieve Your Goals: The 7 Essential Steps
    http://www.lifethinkist.com/set-achieve-goals-dreams-steps
    @lifethinkist

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