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My friend, Tiffany, asked me to share today on a "Big Question" topic. She asks, "How do you take care of yourself? Tell the truth."

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I took a minute to jot down everything that came to mind and quickly realized I was just going with the basics. After I thought about it some more, though, I realized that the basics are really the most important part. If you stack all those basics on top of each other, they make up a full picture.

Since I went to college (and started in a sense "taking care of myself"), I have made little changes and little choices everyday. Some changes were not healthy. Some choices were poor decisions. But over time I learned and tweaked and strengthened. I look one step forward and two steps back dozens of times, but ultimately developed a set of basics that keep me feeling good, both physically and mentally. Now that I know how I work and what works best, I focus (everyday) to maintain.

From a physical standpoint, outdoor running, real food, bar method, green(er) skincare & TRX (I'd love to share more on this workout routine soon!) absolutely work for me. I learned in college that counting calories and food tracking do not work for me. Turns out, I am a bit too obsessive for that sort of "dieting." I have also recently realized that leaving the house to go to the gym does not work. Stepping outside to run or doing TRX in the house fits into my days much better.

From a mental standpoint, I rely heavily on goals (obviously) for personal motivation & scheduled downtime for creative recovery. My parents have said that when I was younger, I would go to a two hour birthday party and come home and need at least four hours of self-imposed quiet time in my room until I was back to "normal." I guess I am still the same and greatly crave a balance between extroverted and introverted activities.

I think "taking care of yourself" is one of the most important things you (& I) can do for the people around us. It's sort of like on an airplane when they recommend you put your own
mask on before you assist others. Without the mask, you might not make
it. And if you don't make it, the people who are counting on you, certainly are not going to make it.

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I want to be here – not just "alive here", but "happy, healthy, open & engaged here". I want to be here for Paul. I want to be here for my future little ones. I want to be here for my business. For those reasons, taking time to "take care" is huge priority for me. I realize that there are thousands of things in my future that I cannot control. But this – putting in effort today for self-care – I can.

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Today I’m participating in Tiffany Moore’s
Big Questions extravaganza. She believes in asking the Big Questions –
the kind that help you decipher your (actual) dreams — and (actually) do
‘em. Find
out who else is answering
The
Big Questions and how you can win your own Big Question session here.

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32 responses to “the big questions : how do you take care of yourself?”

  1. Amanda Avatar

    I love this, Elise! You make some great points! And isn’t it funny that although it’s the basics that are so important, they sometimes end up being the things we toss out the window when we’re short on time, etc?

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  2. Kelsey Avatar

    I’ve also learned to balance being social vs. being an introvert. I finally realized that it’s not that I don’t like to be social, it’s just that scheduling too many things leaves me feeling overwhelmed. Very glad to have gained that wise knowledge with my age 🙂 Others for me are being active (running, spin, yoga), drinking lots of water, lots of sleep, getting outside, reading, and spending time with my husband.

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  3. Carissa Avatar

    You do TRX in your house?! I would love to hear about that! It’s my absolute favorite workout but don’t do it very often because it is just so expensive to go to a studio. I’ve heard of the in home systems- would love to hear review.

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  4. J3SS1C4 Avatar

    This is a great post! Gives me something to think about for sure! I think you’ve summed it all up pretty well though! Lots to think about over the next couple of days to really work out what works best for me with regards to caring for myself.

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  5. Kelsey Avatar

    wonderful post! the little things are completely necessary in my opinion, they certainly keep me sane when the going gets tough.

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  6. Skye Avatar

    I really needed to read this post. I haven’t done the best job taking care of myself the past year, and you’ve reminded me that simple things make all the difference. Tiffany’s Big Questions look so inspiring!

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  7. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    What is TRX?

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  8. Laura M Avatar

    This is very off topic but your photo strip at the top reminded me–the app of the week is a photo booth app so you can get your fix whenever you want! Just thought you would be interested 🙂

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  9. elise blaha Avatar

    I do! We have one of the systems that hooks over a door frame.

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  11. elise blaha Avatar

    I am going to talk more about it later this month (hopefully) but it is a suspension training workout. Read more about it here : http://www.trxtraining.com

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  12. Emily Avatar
    Emily

    elise, thank you! i would have liked this post just for posing such an important question, which is something people need to think about pointedly and often don’t. you also gave terrific, thoughtful answers to boot! on a personal note, i really appreciate the anecdote about self-imposed alone time following socializing. i’ve always felt a bit odd (and not in a good way) for being tired out by parties and other social interactions that energize other people, and hearing that someone else has a similar experience makes me feel a bit better about it!

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  13. Cassie Avatar

    I love your list and would have so many of the same on my own. They are very basic, but it takes very basic things to keep us happy and healthy. Neglect one thing, and it can throw everything off balance.

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  14. rachel Avatar

    For a second I thought you needed lots of SHEEP. 😉

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  15. Teri Avatar

    Good for you, Elise. So many women don’t take care of themselves, but take care of everyone else and then burn out!!! I wish I would have known this earlier. Now that I’m approaching my mid-thirties I’m just figuring out how to balance taking care of myself as well as my children, career, etc. It’s sad that I’m figuring out myself now, instead of figuring this out before all of these other things came into being.
    Oh well – better late than never.
    I need to make myself that list.

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  16. Mary Nguyen Avatar

    I read your little birthday story and it seems like you’re an introvert. (or at least partly?) I’ve been reading heavily on the medical and psychology behind introversion and extroversion lately. I’m the same as you. If I’m out for too long I need downtime to myself to recharge otherwise my brain literally shuts down from overload. (an introversion quality).
    I’ve known for the longest that I’m an introvert. I exhibit every quality on the medical checklist down to a tee. I recently came across this really fascinating article that states only 25% of the world’s population are introverts and thus, socially and culturally it’s viewed as something slightly undesirable but the psychologist says that introversion needs to be accepted opposed to changed. (trying to find a balance between the 2 is actually counterproductive since you can’t physically change the chemicals that are released in your brains that causes these 2 personality traits to begin it. these personality traits are actually “coded” in your brain! i had no idea!)
    Anyway, sorry for the rambling. It was just a thought. Maybe it’s okay to embrace your slightly introvert side =) You, are after all, part of the itty bitty 1/4 of the world’s population. It makes you unique! (which, is one of the reasons i love reading your blogs every day. i find you unique in many ways!)
    thanks for the great write up. i really appreciate that you bring to light the idea of taking care of ourselves….because sometimes we (including me) get so caught up in running around we forget about our bodies!

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  17. Lisa Goren Avatar

    Thanks for this Elise! You helped me realize some important things today 🙂

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  18. elise blaha Avatar

    very interesting! I have not done too much research on either intro OR extroverts, though I think there is no crime in being either. Maybe I am partly an introvert, but really, I think I just enjoy downtime and space to myself. 🙂

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  19. Brandy J Avatar
    Brandy J

    This is awesome:
    ‘My parents have said that when I was younger, I would go to a two hour birthday party and come home and need at least four hours of self-imposed quiet time in my room until I was back to “normal.”‘
    I am still this way, and it’s great that I’m not the only one 🙂

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  20. Renske Avatar
    Renske

    This post made me realize something. The last couple of months were pretty messed up if we talk about taking care of yourself. I just can’t find the motivation to do so. It seems like I can only take care of myself when there is someone else to take care of. So for example I have no problems with making a healthy meal when my boyfriend is with me, but when I’m alone I’ll just grab a pizza. The same happens with going to bed early or exercising. Although it is really important for me to have some “me-time” as well, I just don’t take the time and stay overwhelmed all day. Is this something you recognize? Perhaps when Paul was away? Do you have any tips?:-)

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  21. elise blaha Avatar

    Interesting! I tend to do better on my own because my schedule is totally mine and I can be more selfish with my time. But I can see how it could go either way. Because time apart is so inevitable for us, I work hard to keep my good habits up either way. I know that does not help to much… I wish you luck getting into a routine that works for you!!

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  22. Mel Avatar
    Mel

    Beautiful post, thank you for sharing and being so honest 🙂 I am going to make my own list to work on

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  23. tiffany moore | magic maker Avatar

    Elise, I love this! And I love that you found that doing all the basics REGULARLY added up to an entire self-care routine.
    I think it’s easy to think that the only way we can take care of ourselves is by doing really big things all the time, but it’s the small basics done all the time that add up in a huge way! (xo to you!)

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  24. Marissa Avatar

    First, I flip through your blog daily. And I find myself following your lead. Healthy has been our (my boyfriend and my) focus for the last year. It’s nice to see “health” frequent your blog posts. Keep the inspiration comin’!
    -Marissa
    sandalsandbowties.wordpress.com

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  25. Sabine Avatar

    Thank you so much Elise for this insight. It’s good to know, that I’m not the only introvert, who needs much time for herself after an extrovert time. I like to be with my friends, but I also need a few hours every day to concentrate on myself and my creative work to gain my energy for everyday life.

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  26. alexandra Avatar

    hi Elise!!
    my husband is a strength and conditioning coach and he is a huge fan of TRX.
    Now you’ve got me thinking I should have the over-the-door version here at home for myself : )
    thanks for sharing this post – so great to read about how you care for yourself – it’s something we often over-look but so important to do.
    cheers!

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  27. Gabby Guzik Avatar

    I think I need to ask myself this question and make a list of my own, too. This was a lovely post.
    I haven’t showered in two days. If my house is clean, chances are we’ve been eating out… and if my kids are bathed and dressed, I certainly am not… and if dinner is cooked, it means I’ll be sitting at a kitchen table trying to talk a three year old into finishing her dinner until bedtime. I blog. I take photos. I suppose I should at least squeeze in personal hygiene for a start. But lord knows, I have got to start doing things that take care of me.

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  28. Ann-Marie Avatar

    I love love love these kinds of posts. And I was much like you as a child – I NEEDED downtime after a big social event. Funny how the way we were as children shaped the way we are as adults. xoxo

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  29. Giusep.pina Avatar

    This is one of my favorite posts…again! I REALLY need to work on a balance myself. Especially now that school has started! Thanks so much for sharing this. I needed the reminder 🙂

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  30. Katherine Ann Avatar

    love this post, lady. you’re such an inspiration! thank you for all the posting you do.

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  31. Susi Davis Avatar

    I really needed to read this today. As I entered the “empty nest” phase of my life, I pretty much fell apart and stopped taking care of myself. I haven’t been able to figure out how or where to begin. You reminded me a great foundation of the basics is exactly where to begin. I admire you very much and always get something positive from reading your blog. Thank you for sharing and inspiring me to do more than tread water with the finite heartbeats I’ve been given!

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  32. elise blaha Avatar

    oh that is so good to hear. thank you for sharing and good luck!!

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