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Hot damn, I have loved this city.

Five and a half years ago, I sat with Paul on my parents driveway at 11:30 at night. We liked each other and we were trying to figure out if we could make a relationship work. He had recently joined the military and was headed to Navy officer training in a few weeks and then would be starting med school in Maryland. I was about to start an internship that I thought I was passionate about (spoiler alert – I couldn't have been less passionate) and then go back to USC for my senior year.

We talked about our upcoming date the next night. It would be our first real date. We talked about the next year and how we'd get through it long-distance. And then we talked about what would come after med school and what his commitment would be like for the twenty years after. At one point, he brought up trying for an internship program at Balboa in San Diego.

San Diego? That sounded like a place I'd like to live.

We had been friends for so long. We had danced around the "do I like him?" "do I like her?" idea for so long. Our families had known each other for so long. Safe to say, all the cards were on the table. We were either going to commit and really try for forever or we were going to part as friendly as possible.

(Another spoiler alert – we went for it.)

I can't believe that the "San Diego" portion of our adventure – the dream portion, it felt like – has come to a close. Five and a half years ago this was the goal. It seemed like we'd never get here, but we hoped it was where we were headed.

And now, today, we're through it.

We are really and truly on to the next thing. While we hope to someday come back to San Diego (like for residency and then possibly to settle forever once Paul is out of the military), I no longer dwell on the when? and the where? and the how long?

Today, it's clear why : I found my forever one warm night in June. No matter where we live, I'm home.

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29 responses to “good bye san diego.”

  1. Tsila Sofer Elguez Avatar
    Tsila Sofer Elguez

    I read this blog for posts like this

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  2. lindsey Avatar

    sweet post. love you guys and your story. best of luck in your new home 🙂

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  3. Jessi Avatar

    This is going to make me cry. Saying goodbye to San Diego this year was super hard for us to do. That place definitely has our hearts. And like you, we hope to end up there again in the future.
    Good luck in your adventures in the new place. I’m sure you’ll make it a home quickly!

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  4. Amanda Avatar

    Oh, Elise, this makes my heart warm.

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  5. orange gearle Avatar

    WOW! Seriously, the choice for me to secretly read this at work was a bad one — large tears in my eyes. I, too, am lucky enough to get to spend the rest of my life with my soul mate. It’s wonderful to hear your story! Good luck on your new adventure together!

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  6. mer Avatar
    mer

    love this! cheers to putting it all out in the table… it’s the only way to live life. i’m so happy for you 🙂 good luck with the move!!!

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  7. Katherine Wilkinson Avatar

    SO sweet! I’m so excited to follow you on your next big adventure! I’m sure everything will be alright or better!

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  8. phinner Avatar

    you are one blessed woman!!! good luck with your next big adventure, I look forward to hearing about it!!!
    .)

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  9. Cecilia Avatar

    I’m so happy and sad for you. What a mix of emotions you must be feeling.

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  10. joanne p Avatar

    wow, that is so awesome. san diego has a place in me and my honey’s heart too, such a great city. enjoy the new chapter in your life, i’m sure it will be a rollercoaster but what a ride right? thanks for reminding me what home really means.

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  11. Megs Avatar

    This sweet post totally gave me goosebumps. Well said.

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  12. Drea Avatar

    Beautiful post. What an amazing time in your life! I’m so glad that I found your blog and get to follow along on the next chapter.

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  13. Skye Avatar

    This post is magic. Thanks for sharing your adventures and dreams.

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  14. ali Avatar

    love love lovely post elise. as I embark on a BIG move from Geelong, VIC – Darwin, NT (AUS)… moving a total of 2,328 miles… this makes me realise i too have the same thoughts. yes, that wherever i am with my bf i am home. 🙂

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  15. Lindsay Avatar

    I love this post. What a sweet way to say goodbye (hopefully not forever) to a place you love. On to your next adventures. Best wishes to you.

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  16. Victoria Klein Avatar

    Such a passionate & sweet blog post – thank you for sharing it with as, and also allowing us to comment on how awesome it is 🙂

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  17. Angela Avatar
    Angela

    Elise, ‘I found my forever one warm night in June’ that is possibly the most poetic beautiful line ever.
    Also, in response to Ali’s comment- the only way that could be a longer move is if you were moving from Hobart to Darwin! Hope you’ve got a good air-con until you acclimatise!

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  18. Kirsty Avatar
    Kirsty

    Long time lurker, one time purchaser, first time commenter.
    This totally gave me goosebumps!

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  19. kasia Avatar

    I LOVE reading your posts. They’re pure magic and perfect balance. No more words needed…

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  20. suzanne Avatar

    OMG no you can’t leave! 😉
    I can’t wait to read about your adventures up north!
    At least you’re staying close enough to hold a workshop or something in SD (hint, hint)
    Drive safely and leave the unpacking alone long enough to drink some eggnog on the beach!
    hugs, Suzanne

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  21. *Dream Weaver* Avatar

    “I found my forever one warm night in June. No matter where we live, I’m home” ~ I love this and I totally get what you mean.
    Home for me will always be where my family and my husband to be is 🙂

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  22. Pink Ronnie Avatar

    Like everyone else has said, this is such a beautiful and poignant post. I’m thankful to have been able to glimpse part of your story. “No matter where we live, I’m home.” – absolutely.
    Ronnie xo

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  23. Sandy Avatar

    So happy for you both as you move to the next place in your journey of life. I love reading because you’re so positive about everything.

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  24. fiona lynne Avatar

    I just moved to a new country a week ago. I was already in a foreign country to where I come from but after four years it had become familiar. Now I’m starting over with an unfamiliar place. And it’s exciting and scary at the same time. But the most significant part is that this time I’m moving with my forever-man too. We start this new adventure together. And I feel the same as you: I’m home when I’m with him.

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  25. Anne Avatar

    What a beautiful and sad post! And San Diego is such a beautiful city, it made me a tad nostalgic to read it!

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  26. Christine Newman Avatar

    Goodbye and good luck Elise! San Diego will miss you!

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  27. Travelingthispath Avatar

    What a sweet way to look back over how you came to San Diego and what the past held for you and what the future holds. Good luck!

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  28. Amy B Avatar
    Amy B

    One of my favorite song lyrics: “Home is just another word for you.” Billy Joel

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  29. Kath Avatar
    Kath

    Love this post, chin up! I’m sure you’ll enjoy making your next nest lovely and comfy ready for when your hubby gets home, after all, home is wherever his heart is and that heart is you! Good luck x

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